One thing I struggle with (and I’m sure many others do as well) is trying to be a perfect mom, or even a good one at times. My therapist told me something awhile back that really makes perfect sense, but at the time I felt like she had slapped me in the face. She looked at me and told me that nobody is perfect and no matter how hard I tried, my children would grow up and have complaints about how I raised them. They very well may sit in a therapist’s office one day working through issues that were caused by things I said or did while raising them.
Wow! Talk about a wake up call! And she is right – it probably will happen. And there is absolutely nothing I can do about it. I will do all I can to be the best mother I can possibly be – but I am not perfect and I will mess up. And that will result in me messing up my kids. All I can do is pray it does not cost them too much to work through it in the end.
My motto is to try to look for the positive in any situation – so I’ve decided to do this with being a mom just like anything else. And the reality is – my kids give me lots to work with. Granted, some of this could ultimately be blamed on my husband and me because they are a product of our combined DNA – even though we both try to blame the other one. In the end though, I love my kids and I love our life. We have our crazy moments, but those are the ones we look back on later and laugh about. I would not trade our crazy messed up family moments for perfect family moments ever- where is the fun in that!? (I will admit, in the moment I sometimes forget this though)
So, I’m going to share some things on this blog about how I’ve embraced my imperfection as a mother along with all the other areas of my life. And about the hilarious and crazy things my children do and say that makes me pull my hair out, roll my eyes and love them just a little more each day.
So watch for those posts scattered in with the rest under the category – My Life Stories. That category will have other things too regarding my life – but my kids are a large part of my life right now so they will be what you hear about the most.
And to protect the innocent (or not so innocent at times) I will rename them all here for your future reference. Another blogger I’ve been following and getting a daily laugh from is the britchy one at Bitchin in the Kitchen. Check her out if you want a good laugh and some good ole honesty. I mention her here because she has a whole page with a cast of characters for her blog and I may just have to follow suit at some point. But for now, I just have three.
Cast of Characters
- The Girl: Our daughter – 16 at the time of this posting. We have actually started calling her The Girl over the years. It just flows since the others are often called The Boys.
- The Boys:
- The Drama Queen – our eldest son and the middle child (13 at the time of this post) – He lives up to the stereotype! He can never get enough attention and he does not care if it is good or bad.
- The Instigator – our youngest child (11 at the time of this post). He takes after his dad and likes to poke at people and then play innocent. Don’t buy into it! And this kid can find a loophole in anything! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said – “I told you not to do that.” and his reply is “Well, actually mom, what you said was….”