What about this theory, the fear of not being enough, and the fear of being ‘too much’ are exactly the same fear. the fear of being you. @Nayyirah.Waheed
This came up in my Instagram feed today and really hit home with me. “The fear of being you.” Why do I fear being me and showing the real me to the world?
I am a performer. Not a ‘get on a stage and put on a show’ performer. I am a person who has lived my life with the core belief that I have to perform or do something to be worthy of love and acceptance. I have to perform to make myself worthy of other people’s time, attention and affection.
If you are also a performer, you know exactly how torturous this can be. Just how much anxiety it creates in your life. You are never sure if you’ve done enough to earn or deserve love and acceptance. And you know that even if you have, it is temporary and you must continue to perform to keep that love and acceptance. If you do start to feel some pride in your accomplishments you then worry about being ‘too much’. Are you being obnoxious and arrogant? Have you now lost the love and acceptance you’ve worked so hard to earn because you have made too big of a deal about your performance? Continue reading “The Fear of Being You”